Some good instructive advice, Anahita. Everyone is so different. Conversations you have outside of the bedroom work well to gain trust and strengthen understanding. To be getting turned on, lost in fantasy, and then hear your lover ask question after question brings you back to reality and does not help the experience. Non verbal clues are so important. Body movement is a positive sign. If something doesn’t feel good your partner will soon tell you. Let her know to relax and enjoy and you will take all the time she needs. There is no rush. That reassurance is sexy to hear from a true ‘giver’ but you won’t hear it from the lips of an impatient lover.