Some interesting observations, Joe. Being happy and confident in yourself is what matters, and will in turn attract the right partner - if that is indeed what you seek. Being single is a choice and can be extremely fulfilling. If you want a monogamous relationship be true to yourself and state your 'wants' upfront. Casual lovers can be shallow and break hearts. It all depends on what you want to satisfy your needs. If emotional connection is not a requirement go forth and have fun but weigh up the risks. If you are single and genuinely want to find the 'right' partner for you don't sell your soul. Be mindful that the right partner is out there and trying to find you...