Thank you for sharing, Walter. There should be no 'balance sheet' for kind actions and words. It should be something each partner wants to bring to the relationship. From kindness love grows. Without kindness there is resentment, which festers. A controlling and manipulative partner undermines your worth and twists blame onto you. Over time this chips away at your confidence. It is courageous to leave a bad relationship and necessary for self-preservation. When you find a loving relationship you value and appreciate each moment. The difference is like night and day.